When someone we love dies, or we lose a friendship, relationship, pet, or marriage. we are face to face with what is, and we have no choice but to let go before we are ready. It is the awareness of the greatest loss of control. The cold hard reality of loss has occurred and presents evidence of our absolute powerlessness. After the shock wears off we enter the altered state of grief. The act of grieving is a powerful time, a time to do deep and powerful work. It allows us to time travel, to go back to the times with the lost one and to recall minute detail from the past, as if we are there again. I believe that we have this power during our grieving so that our hearts, minds and bodies can continue to hold on until we are ready, until we are able to accept the loss in our hearts and finally let go and move into acceptance on the material plane. Grief is a friend and a teacher, a space that allows us to understand our powerlessness and to hang on to the details of the connection in our minds and hearts until we can let go with acceptance and peace. It can take a while so we must be easy with ourselves and those who are in the hallway of grief. It is not something to be understood or dissected, only allowed, only a state to walked through. There is no other way.
July 17, 2015
Happy Holidays my beautiful family,
I wish we could all be together to share the celebration, but alas life has cast us all to the wind and scattered are we over the country. I tried to get into Christmas this year, some of you know that Christmas is just not my thing, I like to just get through the season and move on to the New Year quickly. Not that I don’t celebrate light and express gratitude to the trees that give us light, heat and shelter, or praise the birth of Christ, which I think of as the perfect connection to God in each of us. The Christ within, Bodhisattva, or our true and perfect souls. Not to mention that I love Santa too, I have always been partial to men that are bears and Santa is definitely a bear. I think it is great for all the kids, and if you have a family then, how fun is that. I tried to start early and be thoughtful and find something that would be meaningful. I went to the mall and was immediately and completely overwhelmed with THANGS of all kinds.
I had to pull back and go home, I can last about 15 minutes in the mall, the smell, the lights, the people, eeek. Shopping is not my thing. I had read about Heifer International, so I went home and looked at their catalog of giving. What jumped out at me was the option to purchase an organic vegetable garden for a family that needs a leg up. Our dad was an amazing organic gardener and I think he would have heartily approved of my selection. I thought about how blessed each of us is just to live in the USA, how very fortunate we are to have each other, even splintered and scattered about. I thought about all the blessings in my life and how much I get to enjoy every day. With all of that in mind I bought each of our family lines an organic garden that will go to a family who aren't as materially fortunate as we, although I will bet that their lives are much less complicated, very connected to the earth and each other. Just for the hell of it I also threw in a beehive.
I am sending you all much love, light and appreciation.