When someone we love dies, or we lose a friendship, relationship, pet, or marriage. we are face to face with what is, and we have no choice but to let go before we are ready. It is the awareness of the greatest loss of control. The cold hard reality of loss has occurred and presents evidence of our absolute powerlessness. After the shock wears off we enter the altered state of grief. The act of grieving is a powerful time, a time to do deep and powerful work. It allows us to time travel, to go back to the times with the lost one and to recall minute detail from the past, as if we are there again. I believe that we have this power during our grieving so that our hearts, minds and bodies can continue to hold on until we are ready, until we are able to accept the loss in our hearts and finally let go and move into acceptance on the material plane. Grief is a friend and a teacher, a space that allows us to understand our powerlessness and to hang on to the details of the connection in our minds and hearts until we can let go with acceptance and peace. It can take a while so we must be easy with ourselves and those who are in the hallway of grief. It is not something to be understood or dissected, only allowed, only a state to walked through. There is no other way.
July 17, 2015